10 Tips To Keep Relationships Alive – Ep. 20

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10 Tips To Keep Relationships Alive

This is Episode 20 of my podcast. Here I provide 10 tips to keep relationships alive.

I always enjoy the beginning. The beginning of a relationship, meeting a new person who you know will become a good friend, starting to read a good book. To me, the beginning of anything is always exciting. I’m always filled with joy and anticipation when a new football season kicks off.

It excites me to begin a new challenge. I love the feeling of nervousness and wonderment I get when I ask myself, “Can I really do this?” I start a new business with the excitement of all the possibilities when it succeeds. I’m quickly filled with feelings of frustration and doubt as I have to learn so many new things. As I quickly overcome my fears, it just adds to the excitement of beginning something new. Starting projects are fine, but nothing compares with finding true love. I don’t know if I’ve ever found any better feeling than beginning a relationship with someone that you know will be there for the rest of your life.

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The Beginning

The beginning of anything that we do is exciting. For me is exciting because it’s a time filled with possibilities. These possibilities are endless and keep our minds from focusing on the nervousness, frustrations, and fear of beginning to learn anything new. Once you begin anything there are no guarantees of success. It’s going to take hard work and persistence. If you don’t feel happy and excited about your new venture, then you’ll never start it. The fear of failure will prevent you from ever taking that first step. Excitement and anticipation of the success you will have will help you to control that fear and choke out those little “Doubt Demons” that are hiding and waiting to come out.

As Stephen R. Covey wrote in his best-selling book, The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People, “Begin with the end in mind.” Begin your business, relationships, or projects with a vision of the outcome you will achieve. I didn’t begin my relationship with my wife thinking, “I hope this doesn’t end in divorce.” I see us growing old together. Don’t start a business wondering if it’s going to work. Know it’s going to be a success and visualize how it is going to change you.

Tips

How do we keep going after those initial feelings of excitement fade? How do we keep our relationships spontaneous and joyful once we settle into our daily routine? Here are a few tips I can offer:

1. Don’t take your partner for granted. Appreciate every day because we are never promised another.
2. Enjoy the journey. The view from the top of the mountain is magnificent, just don’t ignore all the beauty that you pass by on the way to the top.
3. Be thankful. Openly express gratitude for what you’ve been given even when you’re facing some of life’s challenges.
4. Follow the Golden rule. Treat your significant other as you would want them to treat you.
5. Write down your goals together as a couple. Discuss your hopes and dreams and construct a plan to make it happen.
6. Always begin and end each day with love and gratitude.
7. Do something new that neither you nor your partner has done before. Get out of your comfort zone.
8. Take long walks and enjoy each other’s company and conversation.
9. Travel and make new memories. You will live tomorrow on the memories you make today.
10. Always remember WHY you started in the first place. I’ll never forget the first time I ever saw my wife.

New Car Smell

Even though excitement and euphoria fade, whether it be a new job, a new opportunity, or a new relationship, you don’t quit on it. You don’t get rid of your car right after it loses that “new car smell.” You honor your commitment to it. Those feelings when you first start something are very thin and fragile. They fade away all too quickly. It’s the true feelings down deep inside you that give you the strength to weather the storms.

These are 10 tips to keep relationships alive. Do you have any other tips or techniques that has helped you keep your relationship alive? If so, leave a comment and let me know what they are.

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