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A Simple Thing Like Gratitude

The power of giving thanks is enormous. Once you have decided you want a better life, begin to give thanks for everything. Begin a habit of giving thanks every morning and throughout your day. Soon you will see how powerful a simple thing like gratitude can be.

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Gratitude Is A Simple Thing

To get what you want in life, you must appreciate and give thanks for what you have. You cannot expect a better life if you are not appreciative of the life you have been given. Do not complain about your current situation. Experience the power of a simple thing like gratitude by giving thanks for everything you have.

My daughter will graduate from the University of Alabama in May. When she moved off-campus her sophomore year, she began driving one of our older cars. She describes her car as junk and a POS. I have told her that is the wrong way to go about the situation. She will not get a better car until she is thankful for the car that she has.

Find The Good

Be thankful always. No matter what your situation. You will not change it by complaining. If you don’t live in the nicest house, give thanks. You have a roof over your head. If you are drowning in debt, give thanks. There are ways to pay off debt.

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Wake Up and Be Grateful

I begin each morning tapping into the power of a simple thing like gratitude. When I wake up, I say I am thankful for yesterday. No matter if it was a good day or a bad day. I am grateful for today and the possibilities a new day brings. Next, I begin every morning writing 10 things I am thankful for in a gratitude pad.

You Are Blessed

No matter what your current situation is, be grateful because you are blessed. You are here and have the opportunity to change your situation. As you learn to give thanks, you will be blessed, and your situation will change.

Back in February, I went through a rough patch. I began experiencing many negative things happening in my life. I have written about them in previous blogs. Despite all the bad things that were happening, (there were a lot), I gave thanks. I knew that it was just another challenge that God or the universe was putting me through.

Now I am being blessed far above the turmoil that I went through. I continued to be grateful for my situation and think positive thoughts. I changed my circumstances through the power of giving thanks and was rewarded. A simple thing like gratitude is amazing.

Ask God

What circumstances are you going through? Find peace in knowing you can improve your situation. Give thanks for your present life and everything that you have. Ask God or the universe for whatever you want. Believe it will happen. See the life that you want in your mind as real. Feel what it will be like living that life. Continue to do this every day until you develop faith.

Will it be easy? No. You will have to conquer the fears and doubts that come along with change. You must develop patience and persevere to overcome. Patience is a virtue. With patience and perseverance comes faith. Faith defeats all fears and doubts. Once you have faith, you will understand the power of giving thanks.

If you are going through any negative situation, I hope my article helped. If you have any questions, please leave a comment in the comments section. Don’t forget to like, follow, and sign up for my email list above.

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Create Balance

It has been 11 months since I had a major disruption in my life. I unexpectedly ended up in the hospital, eventually undergoing a surgical procedure. After I was released from the hospital, my life was thrown completely off balance. At the time, I didn’t know how to create balance and become the person I was two weeks earlier.

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Create Balance In Your Body

Let me set the scene for you. In December 2020, I had completed a self-analysis and set my goals for 2021. January came, and I was off to a great start. I was full of energy, creativity flowed, and I was inspired to write daily. Several blogs and podcasts were scheduled on my site.

In late February, I went to bed feeling normal but woke up around midnight vomiting. If I ate or drank even the smallest amount, up it would come. It went on for two days, causing my visit to the hospital. Long story short, I was there for two weeks and had my third major abdominal surgery. I wrote a more detailed post about my ordeal last year.

Something Was Off

After I was released during the first week of March, everything had changed. I didn’t feel the same, and I didn’t know why. The doctors had told me it would take three months to recover physically. That’s not what I’m talking about here. I wasn’t the same person mentally as before I went in.

I didn’t know that my issues were more spiritual than physical. All I knew was that I had no inspiration, creativity, or energy. My life had changed negatively during those two short weeks. The only thing I knew to do was to get back on my schedule of daily gratitude and prayer.

Drawing A Blank

Even after getting back to my normal schedule, I wasn’t the same. I couldn’t find my desire and inspiration. I would sit down to write and just stare at the blank page. There was nothing there. What I didn’t know at the time was I was unbalanced and needed to create balance within my body.

I am a neophyte when it comes to spirituality. That instruction had not been imparted to me. I did not know about the energy centers in our bodies. Living spiritually appeared on my radar and jumped to the top of my priority list.

Read, Read, Read

A good friend recommended a few books to read. I purchased them and dove in headfirst. The book that started the journey was the untethered soul, by Michael Singer. Singer talked about opening your heart to activate inner energy. He touched on the energy centers of our body, also known as chakras.

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Ahhh….Bookstores

A few months later, I wandered into the newly reopened Barnes & Noble. It is the only true bookstore in town. I do love bookstores and miss the small mom-and-pop ones you use to could find in every town. Not planning on purchasing anything, I just browsed, enjoying the atmosphere.

While browsing, I found myself drawn to The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I walked away twice, but the draw was too strong. It is a powerful book which I’m reading for the second time. Tolle also discusses chakras briefly.

Spirituality

I decided to learn more about spirituality and downloaded books on meditation and chakras. The answers were right there in front of me. During this life disruption, my chakras had become unbalanced. My mind and body didn’t feel right. You know that feeling that something isn’t right, but you just can’t put your finger on it.

This revelation only happened a couple of months ago. Inspiration to write had returned much earlier, but it wasn’t the same. I didn’t know how I lost my inspiration, but now I knew exactly why I was feeling the way I felt. The proper way to put it is probably; I wasn’t feeling the way I wanted to feel; the feeling I had before the disturbance.

Knowledge

Knowledge is power. Knowing why my energy centers became unbalanced and closed gave me the power to create balance in my life. I am happy to say I am feeling great now. If some unforeseen circumstance disrupts my life in the future, I will know how to find my balance again.

I am continuing to learn about living spiritually, and hopefully, I will have more great experiences to share. There are some great sites on WordPress that have a much better grasp on spirituality. Check out my friends, Cindy at Uniquelyfitblog.com, and Sheila at takeituponyourself.wordpress.com. If you are feeling unbalanced, like something is missing, try getting in touch with your spiritual side. Create balance in your life.

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The Importance Of Perseverance

My family attended the graduation of our oldest daughter from the University of Central Florida last month. Two of the many colleges at the University were holding their commencement ceremonies at that time. As I watched the ceremony, I realized this was a perfect example of the importance of perseverance.

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After the opening remarks and speakers, they began awarding degrees to the graduates. They began with the students who earned their doctorate degrees. Next, the students were awarded master’s degrees. This part of the ceremony went rather quickly. The majority of the students were earning their baccalaureate, and there were over a thousand students.

The Importance Of Perseverance

The first students to walk across the stage or the distinguished students who graduated summa cum laude and magna cum laude. There were only a few of these. I began to think that the students were the only ones who didn’t struggle during the last four years. Studying was easy for them, and they probably didn’t change majors. The rest of the students understood the importance of perseverance.

I was not a good student in college. Consequently, I changed my major five times before I found one that interested me. I struggled and was plagued by procrastination, fear, uncertainty, lack of motivation, and even depression. Failing so many times I didn’t think I would ever complete the requirements for my degree. It took me five and a half years, but I persevered and made it.

My Daughter

My daughter struggled as well. She did not have high test scores. While her friends were attending a university she had to attend a local state college. After a very poor start and a “come to Jesus” meeting with me, she did well. She was supposed to stay at the state college for two years. Before completing her first year, she reapplied and was accepted for the fall semester at the University of Central Florida.

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So Proud!

At UCF, her struggles did not end. She had difficulty finding a major that suited her. She would procrastinate in courses that did not interest her. Her grades reflected her effort. Finally, she found her niche in kinesiology, and she excelled. She told me later that she almost quit more than once because it got too difficult. Something inside her would not let her, and eventually, she found her passion. She understood the importance of perseverance.

Reflections

As I sat in the arena waiting for the ceremony to begin, I began to reflect on her life. I was reliving important events of her childhood. I remembered the day she was born, her accomplishments on sports teams, and her high school graduation.

As the music began playing, signaling the start of the ceremony, I remembered a phone call I received. It was from her and she was screaming into the phone. I couldn’t understand what she was saying and thought something bad had happened. Then I understood the words, “Dad, I got in, I got accepted to UCF.”

As the processional of graduates continued, we finally spotted her walking into the arena. I could not have been prouder. It wasn’t that she earned her degree. A degree is not a guarantee of a good job or better life. I was proud because she didn’t quit. She conquered all obstacles.

Never Quit

I’m sure many other graduates went through equally difficult times. They all have one thing in common; they didn’t quit. The sheepskin that all graduates have does not mean that they are smarter or better than anyone who doesn’t have one. It stands for accomplishing what they set out to do four years before. That is the importance of perseverance.

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Everything Has A Beginning

Everything has a beginning. When I was a child, and, I’ll admit even now, I read comic books. I remember going to the grocery store with my grandmother and seeing the spinning rack filled with comic books. It was the array of different, bright colors that first drew me to them.

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The Beginning Of Everything

They were all there, Batman, Spider-Man, Superman, Wonder Woman, etc. My brother and I would ask our grandmother if we could buy one. “Only one,” she would say. Spider-Man was my favorite, and my brother always bought Batman. I would read it cover to cover engrossed in their super-heroic adventures.

I was always curious as to how they began their lives as superheroes. As I got older, I sought out the origin stories. Some characters were ordinary people until an event happened that changed them. The character, Peter Parker, was a high school student. One day he was bitten by a radioactive spider on a field trip. That bite gave him powers and turned him into Spider-Man.

For Peter, the powers were both a blessing and a curse. As he was trying to navigate life as a high school student, he now took on the additional responsibility of fighting crime. His powers became an extra burden for him. The one thing that his powers couldn’t provide was a salary.

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Wealth And Success

When I first began reading comics, the superhero characters were already established. I saw them as they were, not as who they were before that significant event. It is how we see people today. I don’t believe wealth is the only measuring stick of success. With that being said, wealth is an easy way to demonstrate success. I will assume that at some point, wealthy people had a goal of becoming wealthy. Their goal was achieved, which would equal success.

Everything has a beginning. We see people as they are today, the wealthy are already wealthy. Unless we knew them when they started their business or launched their career, we don’t know what they were like. Did they come from wealth, or did they build it?

We see the people that seek the spotlight. They love to be in the public eye. They are on TV being interviewed, and the paparazzi seek them out. Just like the superheroes, I read about, I want to know what they were like before they got in the public eye. Were they just normal people like you and me?

Harry Potter Origin

Harry Potter author J. K. Rowling worked a series of jobs including, researcher and schoolteacher before she published her first book. She conceived the idea of Harry Potter in 1990. Mostly writing in longhand, scribbling on scraps of paper, she mapped out the series over the next five years.

Rowling trained as a teacher and began teaching in Edinburgh after she gave birth to her daughter. Her marriage only lasted a little over a year. Taking on the duties of a single mother and schoolteacher, she continued to write whenever she could find a moment. Her manuscript was rejected 12 times before the original was published in June 1997. Everything has a beginning that looks much different now, including famous authors.

Finger Lickin Good

Harland Sanders is better known as Colonel Sanders, the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken restaurants. His father died when he was six years old, and he became responsible for taking care of his younger brother and sister. At an early age, he held down numerous jobs including farmer, streetcar conductor, and salesman.

At the age of 40, while running a service station, he began cooking and feeding travelers. His famous chicken recipe was born. At the age of 62, Sanders began franchising his chicken business. In 1964, he had more than 600 franchised outlets and sold his interest in the company for $2 million, which was a lot of money then. Everything has a beginning, and it is never too late to start.

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“J.K. Rowling.” Https://Www.jkrowling.com/about/, https://www.jkrowling.com.

“Colonel Harland Sanders.” Biography.com, A&E Networks Television, 24 Apr. 2020, https://www.biography.com/business-figure/colonel-harland-sanders.

The Process

When I first started learning about personal development, I thought I had to change immediately. I would listen to a speaker or a mentor who would tell me what I needed to do. Next, I would try to do everything they said right away. It meant dumping all of my old habits and becoming a new person overnight. Eventually, the result was a failure. I didn’t realize personal development is a process; the keyword is development. Change must be developed. The process of personal development takes time.

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The Process Of Personal Development

Once I realized personal development was a process, it took a lot of pressure off me. I gave myself time to develop good habits and replace my old ones. As time went by, I began to notice small differences in my life. I was in the process of personal development. Consequently, I began to feel better about myself and became more confident. Below are ten steps I took in the process of my personal development.

  1. The Decision.
  2. Commitment.
  3. Write an Action Statement.
  4. Set Goals.
  5. Write a plan.
  6. Time Management.
  7. Positive Affirmations.
  8. Thought-Control.
  9. Belief.
  10. Faith.

You begin with your decision to change. There are many different reasons why people decide to change their lifestyle. You might have realized that your habits are leading you down a path of destruction. Deciding to develop healthier habits will lead you to a happier lifestyle.

Commitment

Unfortunately, just making a decision is not enough. Most people who begin the process of personal development fail. The main reason is they didn’t commit. 75% of your success will be due to your commitment to your decision. Commitment means you will give your development time. You will not quit when you hit your first obstacle.

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Writing an action statement is a significant component in the process. First, write down what you are going to do. Second, why do you want to do it? Your WHY is a key element. Third, what are you going to give up, sleep, TV, social media, etc? No one gets something for nothing. Finally, when do you want it? Set a realistic date of when you want to obtain your desire.

Goals

Set goals and write them down. Make sure you have long-term goals, intermediate goals, and short-term or weekly goals. Your goals will keep you on track, and you can monitor your progress. Write a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goals. Don’t worry about the details. Your goals will lead you to discover how to accomplish them.

Manage your time. You have 1440 minutes every day. Set aside some time daily, once in the morning and once before you go to sleep, for you. Use this time to relax, journal, meditate and speak your action statement out loud.

Affirmations

Speak positive affirmations every day. Write down several affirmations which are tailored to you and the person you want to become. Speak these out loud as many times as you can a day. Visualization and verbalization are important in the process of personal development. Through these techniques, you will change your paradigm.

Begin to control your thoughts. Your brain is putting out thoughts constantly, both positive and negative. Pay attention to your thoughts and change any negative thought to a positive one. Your thoughts will become your reality. See yourself as the person you want to become in the future. When you are visualizing your future life, make sure that it feels normal to you.

Belief

As you go through the process of personal development, you will begin to develop belief. In the beginning, you might not believe that you can change. As you continue to go through the process, your belief will become stronger. The more you speak your positive affirmations and visualize your future as if it is now, the greater your belief will become.

Faith

Ultimately, your belief will turn into faith. Faith is the final step in the process because once you have faith you can never be stopped. If you experience failure, faith will help you begin again. Obstacles will become smaller and just a nuisance. Once you develop faith, you will feel a calmness because you know you will succeed. It’s just a matter of time.

When you make your decision to change, remember that personal development is a process. This process doesn’t happen immediately but occurs over time. Commit to your decision and, you will begin to see positive changes in your personal development. Eventually, you will succeed and become the person you were meant to be. I wish everyone a happy and prosperous New Year!

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The Fear Of Success

Here we are in December, and the year is quickly coming to an end. Now is a great time to do a SWOT (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats) analysis and see how far you have come in 2021. When you look at your weaknesses, check if any fears hold you back. Many people overlook a big reason they aren’t moving forward, the fear of success.

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Do You Have Fear Of Success?

Take a moment and ask yourself, what am I afraid of? There are many fears which can be reasons for your lack of success. One of the most prevalent fears is the fear of criticism by others. Some people care more about what others think of them than their success. Are you one of them? If so, stop! No one is more important than you.

My Fear Of Heights

I have a fear of heights or, a better way to put it, a fear of falling from great heights. Recently, I was able to experience this fear once again. My wife and I went to the Boca Museum of Art to see the Machu Picchu exhibit. There were almost 200 gold and pottery exhibits from the Incan Empire. In addition, there was a virtual reality experience.

I walked into the room, climbed into a pod, sat down, and put on my VR headset. After some brief instructions, I was standing in Machu Picchu. An Incan spirit guide appeared before me and how it all began. Next, we were given the power of flight by the Condor God and began rising above the great city. It happened so quickly that my fear of heights immediately kicked in.

It is incredible how real it seemed. I was not a few feet off the ground but thousands of feet in the air. Of course, this was all in my mind. In reality, my feet were only about a foot off the floor. I had to control my fear and keep telling myself where I was. Soon, my fear was under control, and I was enjoying my time flying above Machu Picchu.

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Deinition Of Success

My definition of success is making the most out of the gifts you are given at birth in your lifetime. One thing that can hold you back is the fear of success. You might not even realize this fear exists in you. How can you be afraid of the one thing you strive to become? For example, a lot of people would like to become famous but their life would have to change to do so. The brain is resistant to change therefore you, have a fear of success.

The fear of success is powerful and deceptive. It can take the form of procrastination and excuses. If you are successful, you would have to establish another level of comfort. A promotion at work could mean more responsibility. Your fear of success in your mind could sabotage this goal.

Created In Your Mind

Whatever fears you have are created in your mind. You can learn to control your mind and also control your fears. Learn to make peace with your fears instead of trying to eliminate them from your mind. As many times as I have jumped out of airplanes and flown in helicopters, I still cannot eliminate my fear.

Take control of your life and go out and get what you deserve. Never let any fears get in your way of accomplishing your goals. By being honest with yourself, you can see if you have the fear of success. Once you have identified it, you can control it like you can control all your fears. Nothing can stop you!

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Life Is Not Fair

Life is not fair. It is something that should be taught early on in childhood. Bad things happen to good people; good things happen to bad people. This is just life. We are all going to go through difficult times.

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Understand Life Is Not Fair

Why do bad things happen to good people? I do not have an answer to that question. Reflecting on my own life, there have been several difficult times. I believe I have lived a good life and consider myself a good person. Despite that, I was diagnosed with cancer at age 47. It was a difficult time for my family and me. Through the right mindset and plenty of prayers, I survived.

Life Was Not Fair To Tom

Back in November, I wrote a post about losing a friend. My friend was a better person than me. Probably one of the best people I have ever met. He was always giving himself, his time, and his money towards helping other people. He died unexpectedly at the age of 63. Life is not fair, and bad things happen to good people.

I wondered why. Were we being punished for a past transgression? Did we get closer to some unknown breakthrough, and evil forces intervened to stop us? Was it just a random happening?

The Age Old Question….. Why?

Why do we go through difficult times can be answered in many different ways based on our beliefs. A religious person can see it as Satan turning you against God. Scientists might look at it as just random acts with no meaning. It just happens. The pessimist says their life is just one difficult time after another. Optimists see difficult times as obstacles to overcome. These times do not last.

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I Go Through Many Tough Times

I go through difficult times frequently, and they seem to hit one right after the other. Then I will go for several months of good times. Once I realized that life is not fair, I began to handle the difficult times better. Good things happen to bad people, and good people struggle. It is life, and I do not pretend to have it figured out.

When I go through difficult times, I no longer ask the question; why did it happen? The question I ask myself is, what am I going to do about it? After being diagnosed with cancer, I did not waste time trying to figure out what caused it. I realized that I had lived a great life, and I accepted it. Next, I began thinking about defeating the disease.

Focus On The Solution

Life is not fair. Never has been, never will be. When you go through difficult times, don’t worry about the cause; focus on the solution. There isn’t anything that life throws at you that you cannot handle.

I do not pay attention to other people, whether they are good or bad. If someone is a terrible person and becomes wealthy, God bless them. I’m not in control of others and the way they live. I’m only in control of myself.

Do Not Waste Time

Do not waste time on why it happened. Concentrate on why you need to get through these difficult times. The Law of Attraction doesn’t differentiate between good and bad people. If you understand the Law of Attraction, you know you will become what you think. Bad people can have good thoughts. In contrast, good people can have negative thoughts. Your thoughts, good or bad, will become your reality.

You have too much to give to let the difficult times stop you. Focus on yourself and learn to control your thoughts. If you find yourself thinking negatively, immediately speak positive affirmations. Live the life you want to live in your mind before you live it in reality. Good things happen to good people. Be the example you want others to emulate.

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Believe Like A Child

My podcast post on Wednesday was about believing in yourself. Today I want to continue with the topic of belief. Many people lose sight of their dreams when they enter adulthood. We forget how to believe like a child. Our childhood beliefs become replaced by anxiety and worry as adults.

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Believe Like A Child

The holiday season is a wonderful time to reflect on your childhood. As a child, you believed all things are possible without question. A man in a red suit, sleigh, and flying reindeer will fly around the world, in one night, and deliver presents to every child.

If you have been good all year, you get the nice present you asked for. In contrast, if you have been a bad boy or girl, you will find coal in your stocking. These unquestioned beliefs resulted in many a wonderful childhood. You might have grown up, but you should continue to believe like a child.

Believe

Believe in your dreams with the same unquestioning passion you had as a child. The only reason you stopped believing was you entered adulthood. Family, bills, your career, all of the situations associated with adulthood kill your dreams.

Find your inner child and begin to believe you can change. The Bible says, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” Mark 11:24 NIV. As long as you believe and do not doubt, it will be yours. The timing though is up to God.

Ask, Believe, Receive

This is how the Law of Attraction works, Ask, Believe, and Receive. Belief, mixed with emotion, is the key ingredient in this formula. You must erase all doubt. You might ask for something but do not believe it in your heart, therefore, you never receive it. Ask God to release all doubt within you.

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When you believe like a child, you have no doubt. Doubt comes into your mind through your experiences in life. As a child, your parents told you that Santa would come down your chimney and deliver presents on Christmas Eve. The next morning, Christmas Day, you wake up and find the gifts you asked for under the tree. You asked, believed, and received. There was never any doubt.

Reflection

Today, reflect on your childhood and remember those wonderful days. If you’re not living the life you want to live, decide to make a change. Commit to your decision and begin to believe like a child. Dust off your forgotten dreams and start dreaming again.

Begin to develop daily habits of prayer, affirmations, and meditation. Tell yourself every day, “I release all doubt,” “I release everything that is holding me back.” Do this several times a day, every day, and begin to build belief. In time, your doubts will appear less often, and you will feel the belief building inside of you.

Ask God

Ask God for what you want and believe in your heart that you will receive it. Remember that the Bible also tells us to ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. James 1:5-8 ESV.

I wish everyone happy holidays. Enjoy this time with friends and family and, give thanks for your blessings. Take some time for yourself to relax and reflect on your childhood. Find your ability to believe like a child.

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Believe In Yourself

I have excellent conversations with several people who think as I do. We believe that your life is based on your thoughts. If you control your thoughts and think positively, you will lead a positive life. I began thinking about these people and realized something important. Most of them spend money to attend self-improvement seminars, workshops, and weekends. Many are not living the lives that they are seeking. I wondered why not. If you are one, maybe you do not believe in yourself.

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Believe In Yourself

Are people looking for an authoritative figure in their lives? If they spent money going to retreats to feel better, do they ever make permanent changes to their lives? Why not? Possibly, they see the speaker as a celebrity. They put them on a pedestal, and by doing that, they believe that that person is better than them. Therefore, they do not change because they do not believe they are good enough.

Belief is an essential part of changing. You must believe you can be the person you are trying to become. There are leaders, and there are followers. Leaders believe they can lead, and followers do not. Belief is difficult to come by and must be developed. You are battling everything that you have been told and thought in the past.

Belief

No one is better than you! Stop chasing the so-called gurus and realize they are no different from you. Every one of them was where you are before they believed they could change. Most of them genuinely want to help. They are not scam artists just looking for your money. It is the audience that never makes the change. They do not continue it long enough to develop belief.

My unsolicited advice is to find a mentor who teaches a process. Follow the process and commit to it for life. Do not be in a hurry. You have little control over the timing. Trust in the process

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Thoughts

There is a difference between words and thoughts. We first begin journal statements, a gratitude pad, etc., we think about what we are writing. As time goes by, we know what we want to write and do not think about it as much. Our journal becomes words on paper, not thoughts. Take time to meditate and think about what you wrote.

The Process

Change begins in your mind. I am living my life today based on my thoughts in the past. Now that I understand this concept, I can determine my future by controlling my thoughts. It is the process I use to accomplish this:

  1. I make my pre-dominant thought that of which I want to become. I think about what my life will look like in the future.
  2. When I go to bed at night, the last thing I do before going to sleep is to think about my life in the future. I visualize in my mind what I will be doing, and how I will be living.
  3. I spend time in the morning meditating and visualizing my future life.
  4. When I visualize the life that I am living, it must feel natural and normal. I am not living someone’s life; I am living mine.
  5. Before visualizing, I elicit emotions. I think about the first time I saw my wife, and it brings up the emotion I had at the time. Adding emotion and feeling to your thoughts is the ingredient to turn them into reality.

Believe in yourself. If you don’t have belief, then begin developing it. Start speaking and thinking like the person you want to become. Do this every day, and you will develop belief. Continue to develop your belief until it turns into faith. Faith is an unstoppable force. You were born for greatness, believe it.

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Dealing With Resistance

My normal course of action is to schedule my posts ahead of time, especially before I go on vacation or during holidays. Last week I did not do that because I was dealing with the resistance. I did not have any inspirations to write. My mind was blank.

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Dealing With Resistance Is A Pain

I did have a great Thanksgiving week full of the 4 F’s, food, family, friends, and football. The holiday fell at the perfect time for me because I knew I wanted to take a break. I knew I was dealing with resistance.

When you experience resistance, you find the lessons that you are meant to learn

– Jon Gordon

I wanted to get out of my daily routine for a short time. Every day I start by giving thanks, praying, exercising, journaling, and meditating. I felt it was becoming just a drill, and I was not getting everything out of it. Every once in a while, it is good to step back and take a break.

The tendency to follow the path of least resistance guarantees failure in life.

– Brian Tracy

I believe in doing everything in moderation. I am the type of person that can get obsessed with one thing and ignore other important things in my life. My years of experience have taught me that moderation is a better course for me.

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Resistance To Writing

So last week, I went a couple of days without any inspiration to write; I knew I was dealing with resistance. Resistance is that feeling inside you that you want to do something but are also unmotivated to get it done. It is a force to counter your forward progress. If you have ever attempted to create something, you have probably experienced resistance at some point. No one is immune to it.

The real problem has far less to do with what is really out there than it does with our resistance to finding out what is really out there.

– Barbara Brown Taylor

I knew I was dealing with resistance when I began to notice my thoughts. The question, Why was prevalent in my thoughts. Why was I writing? Why was I starting another business? I began to focus on my lack of progress or success in certain areas. I ignored all the progress and success that I am having in many more areas. It was resistance.

If I have resistance to something, it means there’s something wrong. The resistance to me is a sign of fear.

– Billy Corgan

Do Not Wait

Resistance is the reason most younger people do not live out their dreams. They believe there is always time. There is no sense of urgency. More people today are living to be 100 than when I grew up. If you are 20 years old, that gives you 80 more years to achieve your dreams. The lack of urgency is why many people do not get wealthy until their 40s and 50s. We live in an unlimited universe, but we do not have unlimited time.

Resistance cannot be seen, touched, heard, or smelled. But it can be felt.

– Steven Pressfield

No Promises

No one is promised tomorrow. Last week marked the first anniversary of the passing of my friend Tom. He appeared healthy one day, and a few days later, he was gone. Never take today for granted. You might not have tomorrow.

If you find yourself dealing with resistance, ask yourself two questions.

1. If you were told you had a week to live; what would you do?

2. If Death appeared before you today and said, It is time; what regrets would you have?

The main question is, What are you waiting for?

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